The Perfect Father: Embracing Timelessness

In today's definition, a father is expected to provide support to his children. However, many fathers lack a strong sense of identity, resulting in a superficial form of support without guiding their children towards self-improvement.

Fathers play a crucial role in instilling positive character traits such as discipline, hard work, honesty, and kindness. While this is commendable, often this teaching remains on the surface, limited to psychological concepts or belief systems.

In various cultures, men may feel lost, but they believe that being a disciplinarian or a financial provider (whether physically present or not) fulfills the ideal image of a father. Unfortunately, they fail to connect with their authentic selves, which is what their children truly seek.

In the XI definition, the ultimate father establishes a deep connection with his Spirit or timeless self, truly knowing himself at a profound level. This connection empowers his children and even his partner to discover and embrace their own authentic identities.

Children seek fathers as a support system, but as mentioned before, this support has devolved into a purely physical form. Fathers have become someone who fixes their car, provides money, or offers assistance in times of trouble. While these actions are valuable, what if fathers could offer something deeper—a strong connection between their temporal and timeless selves? This is the security children require during their upbringing. It is also the security that a spouse seeks. They need to know that the man they rely on, the father figure, is rooted in both space and time, present and resonating with clarity in the fourth dimension.

When operating from this state of oneness, the solutions fathers provide for their children arise from a different place. Whether they are solving a problem, creating something new, or simply spending time with their kids, being in that singular state of connection is the greatest gift fathers can give their children and anyone else. When children witness this, they not only acquire admirable qualities like good work ethic and honesty, but they also cultivate a strong sense of self, a foundation for success in all aspects of life.

Even if children learn success strategies from their parents and achieve material success, without that inner connection, they will still feel empty and broken inside. Therefore, becoming the ultimate father is not solely defined by physical actions or engaging in activities like playing baseball. While those are essential, they only truly benefit the children when fathers first establish that deeper connection with themselves.

As a father of six beautiful kids, people frequently marvel at their amazing qualities. However, this did not occur by chance. It is a result of the integrity between my temporal and timeless self. Yes, I experienced near-death experiences, but I also faced numerous challenges, including divorce, bankruptcy, and debilitating illnesses. Many fathers encounter similar hardships, but what sets me apart is that I learned from those struggles and utilized them as opportunities to shed the barriers obstructing my connection with my timeless self. That is where true integration occurred.

One indication of being the ultimate father is when children genuinely want to spend time with you. For instance, my kids consistently invite me to join them and their friends in activities such as volleyball, motorcycling, car racing, and even shopping with my younger daughters. The key is that they desire to be in your presence—not because they are lost or disconnected, but because you provide them with the greatest gift of all: timelessness. When you are a unified being, your children will continue to enjoy your company even during their teenage years.

To be the ultimate father, you must operate from this singularity and achieve integration between your temporal and timeless selves. You must comprehend yourself at such a profound level and possess an unwavering solidity that cannot be shaken or destroyed, regardless of what may transpire.

This is precisely what XI teaches you—to return to your natural state of being. It enables you to become the ultimate father, the ultimate human being, and live as the best version of yourself.

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