People try to become self-actualized by making a lot of money, helping others, becoming spiritual, or through philanthropy. Perhaps you think that Mother Teresa, Martin Luther King or Steve Jobs were self-actualized. But what does it really mean to become self-actualized, according to Xponential Intelligence (XI)?
Most people think that there are two versions of them - you, or your physical form, and then your higher self that's out there. And to self-actualize, to attain the higher version of who you are, you have to connect the two.
But that's not the way it works. You can make changes this way, but you’ll stay at a certain level and will never go beyond that. And that point that you can never go beyond is space and time, because you would always define being self-actualized as a version of yourself in physical terms here, at a reality that has density.
For example, some people wear particular clothing or a long beard to signify they're self-actualized, or sit in a cave for years or fast, thinking they're self-actualized; or they help others, donate money, etc. But if you were in a true self-actualized state while doing all those things, you could do a hundred times better – for example, helping others and ascending to higher levels – by doing it at a different consciousness.
If yook at the world, we're always trying to improve ourselves – that's how self-actualizing is defined for everybody: trying to improve yourself. And there's nothing wrong with that, but how do you improve yourself? By being a better person. How do you define a better person? In this reality, a better person would help thousands or millions of people. But here’s the problem: the way you help them is by carrying their burdens. And that's not really becoming self-actualized – it’s actually the opposite!
In our society, people who become self-actualized have to fight for a purpose. For example, Martin Luther King did amazing things, but he was always an underdog fighting the system, and when he stops pushing against or fighting for the cause, his identity disappears.
There have always been fantastic individuals who spent their lives in service or helping, but if we don't delete the underlying patterns we’ll keep perpetuating what we're always fighting for and against. It's just like Einstein said, you have to remove yourself – in this case, from the equation of “fighting for a purpose” – to become truly self-actualized.
To go even deeper, consider a maverick like Steve Jobs – remember the 80’s Mac commercials, fighting against Big Blue, against the system? He was self-actualized to a certain level, but not spherically. Like Bill Gates, they fight against the system but they become so large that they become the system, because they have to keep perpetuating that identity. They have to keep pushing and pushing and then they become a system of their own.
Or take research centers, such as cancer research. They probably already figured out a cure for cancer but if they admit it, that organization, which is worth billions of dollars, would disappear, and then what would be their purpose?
But here’s the difference: if you're self-actualized, you become the purpose. Then there’s no need to fight for one. You might fight if necessary, but you're doing it for a different reason and from a very different space.
How about someone like Elon Musk? He's very intelligent, he's got a lot of great concepts that he can manifest, but does that mean he's self-actualized? No. Because the way he accesses and processes information destroys him as he ages. If you have to destroy yourself – or destroy others, like Putin – to self-actualize, you're not self-actualized.
Or let's look at religions: you have to keep working hard, keep meditating, to self-actualize. If you always have to do something, then you're not self-actualized because you haven't reached your goal of being self-actualized. I'm not saying religious practices don't work, but they can only get you to a certain point that always stops at the physical realm, in this experiential reality.
For example, Paramahansa Yogananda was a very evolved human being, but he still deemed himself a soul yearning to be at the higher spiritual level. So his identity was still a physical identity. He knew that we're a grander version out there, but there’s always a yearning, which means he hasn't stepped into his higher self... Similarly with a rich and successful person who's trying to prove to the world that he's a really good person. The cause might be great, he may be awakened and have a lot of knowledge, but he's still striving to prove himself to others. If you're in that state, you're not really self-actualized. It's that ceiling of time and space that stops a lot of individuals...
So what, then, is real self-actualization? Self-actualization is your inner journey, not what you're doing on the outside. It's about your spirit, your timeless or limitless self, and your physical rendition of your spirit here.
The first step is to realize that your physical rendition is not real: it’s a reflection, a mirror, of how awakened you are at spirit level. Then you start operating from your higher self, and not from your lower self looking up to your higher self. And when you look at your reflection, you start to see the baggage that you've created. But you don't change the mirror, you change your simulation of yourself from a higher level by letting go, having fewer filters.
Basically, you’re projecting yourself here but experiencing it in the higher realm, not in your physical form. This is where you feel as one, because you know that there's no separation of self, just a reflection of self. That's real singularity or oneness, wholeness. It's all about space and time, about where you consciously render yourself from.
When you’re self-actualized you transform others without saying or doing anything, your frequencies override and change the consciousness and reality around you. And people who are really self-actualized can take others to the levels they are at. If you are self-actualized, you are also naturally, spherically abundant and all opportunities are open for you.
By the way, it's a lot easier to become a billionaire than it is to become self-actualized at the levels of a Buddha, Muhammad or Jesus.